Being in a band is like being in a relationship.

You have to honor the other people, give them their space, and not be too pushy. But it gets hard, especially when you're talking to your singer, and you wanna say, "DUUUUUUDE, you gotta record this vocal shizz, because we need some songs for our myspace like, NOW!" but you can't because you really really need them to stay in your band.

In other words, waiting for people sucks.

With the band, too, it's not just one other person you're waiting on, it's anywhere from two to five others, perhaps more. So it's hard to schedule things, and then...

Heaven forbid, quitting bands. I needed to quit one a while back, because it was screwy beyond repair. People burning each other's eyes out with ciggarettes for fun, while drunk, for example. This seriously happened to me a few months ago when I tried to quit:

(Let's call this guy Bob, for all intensive purposes)

Me: "Hey, Bob, dude, we gotta talk about something."
Bob: "Yeah, what?"
Me: "Um... It's about the band."
Bob: "Yeah?"
Me: "It's... I mean, I don't have time for it anymore. I have.... Other things to worry about."
Bob: "Like what? You're free now, marching band's over."
Me: "I... It's another... I mean, I need to concentrate on my... Other band."
Bob: "What? I don't understand."
Me: "There's another band."
Bob: "Wat, what? There's another band? You've been cheating on me with another band?"
Me: "Well kinda, the other band was like a side project, but they're... more important to me."
Bob: "They're more important to you? More important than our band, that we made together?"
Me: "Yeah... Sorry..."
Bob: "You know, you just ripped my heart out, threw it on the ground, and stabbed it a million times."
Me: "Oh, please don't get too upset."
Bob: "I can't believe this is happening." (logs out)



No. Joke. That actually happened, word-for-word. I thought it was just flipping hilarious, so I saved the chat. xD



But anyway, now my current band is all happy, but for the problem that it seems like everyone else is procrastinating. No one wants to be the first to record something, no one wants to drive two hours away to get to the other members' houses. It kinda sucks, but we're working through issues. As long as no one starts cheating on us, we're cool. I mean, side projects are fine, but not straight-out "Oh, I'm quitting because they're cooler", which is the beepy thing that I did.

My advice? Don't quit your band until you are absolutely certain that nothing can be worked out.